For some reason I seem to be seeing a lot of articles about modesty lately. I’m bored with hearing about modesty. Even in articles putting the focus on men’s gaze instead of women’s attire, it’s a lot of filth this, Playboy that. But it’s still demeaning to call undressed women “filth”. And the idea of modesty, of trying to never appreciate a woman’s form, just seems really pointless.
For the Christians, let’s consider the foundational verse on modesty, the one that says that if you look at a woman with lust in your heart you’ve committed adultery. It’s been a clear mistake to interpret “look at a woman with lust” as “look at an attractive woman at all.” It’s not lust to appreciate an attractive woman; it’s lust to want to own her. In other words: stop trying to own women.
So for those who aren’t trying to own women, but merely notice and appreciate them: you need carry no additional burden in this matter. And for those who use modesty to try to own women by shaming them based on what they wear or reveal: you’re a worse Pharisee (in the Christian sense of the term) than any actual Pharisee ever was.